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September 24, 2012

Willy Woes: Does Size Matter?

Does size matter?

When it comes to penises, it always seems to be about size. I’d wager that if you asked most men about their penises, they’d say that they wished it was larger. Where are they getting these messages that larger is better? Let’s discuss the facts and dispel the myths, so we may delight in the dick without feeling bad.

The average penis is about three to four inches long when flaccid and five to six inches long when erect. Keep in mind that this is the AVERAGE.
Average – The result obtained by adding several quantities together and then dividing this total by the number of quantities; the mean

There are men that fall into the realm both above and below these marks. Still not convinced? Is your mind drifting back to that porn you saw? Men in porn are usually cast due to their endowment and aren’t a realistic comparison when looking at the everyday man.

Still worried about what the ladies will think? Most women are not concerned with your length, but rather, your girth. A long, but skinny penis is often less satisfying than a shorter, thicker one. Many women report that the feeling of fullness from a thicker penis is what they’d prefer. Also important to realize that many women do not achieve orgasm through PV (penis/vagina) sex alone. Additional clitoral stimulation is needed to send them to orbit.

If you still feel that you’re not measuring up as well as you would like, be mindful of the saying, “its not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean.” Even if you have a “small” penis, you can still give your partner sexual satisfaction with the use of sex toys. They even make ones that can go over your penis to give you an added oomph. And don’t discount the sexual satisfaction that can be wrought from oral and manual sex. Pleasure comes in many forms so give the little guy a break and love him for what he is.

Forget shoe size, forget hand size, forget height, and forget pills that will give you 3 extra inches. Odds are you are perfectly fine and dandy! Love your penis size it is and when it comes to sex, everything is OK here.

Jessica O'ReillyDr. Jess is thrilled to have Megan Stubbs contributing to our community!





About The Author

Dr. Megan Stubbs

Dr. Megan Stubbs is a Grand Rapids-based Sexologist. She holds a doctor of education in Human Sexuality from San Francisco’s Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality and a degree in Biology from Grand Valley State University. She also Board Certified by the American College of Sexologists (ACS).