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May 23, 2012

Why Don’t I Feel Any Attraction to Mr. Right?

Mr. Right

The following an excerpt from Dr. Jess’ article published by iVillage Canada: “Cute, sweet and perfect on paper. Why aren’t we clicking?”

If you’ve ever fallen head over heels for the Mr. Wrong (and who hasn’t?), you know that the laws of attraction are both a science and a mystery. Sometimes we find ourselves inexplicably attracted to a man who brings us nothing but drama while the perfect gentleman goes completely unnoticed. Sorry guys!

I hear it from women in the dating game all the time. They meet and connect with a guy who is perfect on paper, but they just don’t seem to click. He’s handsome, kind, funny and caring — a perfect 10. But sexually, they just can’t seem to get beyond first gear — or first base.

Most of these women start to blame themselves and wonder if something is wrong with them. They label themselves as self-destructive or damaged when in most cases, nothing could be farther than the truth. Sexual chemistry is a complex and wondrous thing and we can’t always control whom we’re attracted to and we shouldn’t apologize for our sexuality.

However, this doesn’t mean that your sexual and romantic future is out of your hands. Feelingsomething doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to act on that feeling. And if you don’t experience a rush of sexual chemistry with a partner (new or old), there is good news, as many of these chemical reactions can be cultivated.

Click here to visit iVillage and to learn more about building the 4 essential elements of sexual chemistry…